Tips to Give a Massage He’ll Actually Enjoy
In the majority of my relationships and dating situations, I dreaded being asked to give a massage. I would much rather log into Groupon and schedule a couple massage that’s 50% off (shrugs.) I guess that’s because I figured I had no idea how to give a massage … and if we’re in bed giving a rub down that’s just foreplay to sex, right? Yeah, it’s a great way to say let’s have sex now; but it can also be an intimate experience between two people. I recently learned that massages can take a relationship to the next level. I can tell you how to massage him into love. Keep reading and hear me out…
I was never into giving massages, but my current boyfriend came along and changed all of that. One night (before I gave up my goodies) he asked could he give me a massage when our movie ended. I let him know beforehand that this massage would not lead to a “happy ending” (I still wanted to make him wait longer for sex.) He agreed; and that night with his massage he gave me complete euphoria in twenty minutes. And guess what? It led to sex – I couldn’t help it!
As we continued dating I wanted to return the massaging favor, so I took the time to learn a few tips about it. I then became really good at it. Now, taking a few minutes out of our date nights and exchanging massages between each other has become the glue to our relationship. We relax, explore each other’s mind and bodies, while falling deeper in love each time. I’m no professional at this and you don’t have to be either. But here’s what I know. In order to perform a massage that your man will appreciate, you need to include these five things:
Create the perfect ambiance
Setting the mood is my favorite part. You have to create a tranquil environment. Add a special touch to it and cater the ambiance to his needs. For instance, if my boyfriend has had a long day at work he will need a little extra assistance with relaxing. Therefore, I’ll include a bottle of champagne in my massage session. In addition to catering the ambiance, you should have these three things present too:
Dim lighting
Pleasant scents (candles or incense)
I use the Kama Sutra Massage Candle. This one candle actually completes the entire list. The fire creates dim lighting. The wax from the candle is also a massage oil. And, the Kama Sutra Massage Candle has the scent situation handled too. There are a few scents to choose from, like Mediterranean Almond, Tahitian Sandalwood, and Island Passion Fruit. Get this candle and save yourself time preparing.
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Massage the features on his face
Do not forget his face – it needs love too. I’d actually recommend starting with the face. A few tugs on his ears will get the engine running. Men love that sh*t. I usually ball up my fist when massaging his face. My fist allows me to use my knuckles to massage his cheeks and jawline. Did you know a facial massage will also decrease the signs of aging? The massage motions will stimulate the blood circulation in his face, which will ultimately decrease wrinkles and increase radiance. Keep your man stress -free and looking good.
Lastly, I need to know, if your man has a beard? Or a nice head of hair? If so, massage those areas too and make sure you get a little aggressive with it. Use your nails to scratch his scalp.
Give his nipples some attention
The first time I was asked by a man to massage his nipples, it made me uncomfortable. My ignorance had me believing nipple stimulation was only for women. I had no idea what to do. But, I learned the same nerve endings that alert genitals in women are in men, too. Make sure you oil that chest up and massage his nipples. Eye contact while massaging the chest area is always a plus as well; it’s so sexy.
Use more than your fingers
I like to incorporate other parts of my body when giving him a massage. The professionals do it all the time. Use your arm and elbow to apply more pressure where it’s tense. Also, use more parts of your body to make the massage spicy! I use my hair sometimes for a gentle tease in areas. When I flip him over and massage his back I apply more pressure by straddling too. Yes, I hop on top and straddle with my behind, to apply pressure to his lower back. This is also the perfect transition to begin sex (if sex is on the menu.)
Massage his hands
Massaging hands is pretty self-explanatory, but there is one area you should pay a little more attention to. Massaging the palm of the hand will alleviate a great amount of tension (even tension in the relationship.) Use a thumb to vigorously soothe the palm in a circular motion. Also, do a few tugs of massaging on each finger. This part of the massage is the perfect time to start a conversation. Ask him about his day and anything on his mind. Men tend to steer away from sharing their thoughts and feelings, but while they’re completely relaxed during a massage they’ll tell you everything.
Lastly, as a bonus tip: depending on the rank of your relationship try massaging naked. With my boyfriend, our skin to skin connection during these massages conquers mostly all of our disagreements. I really love these moments of my boyfriend, oils, and intimacy flowing. It has helped both of us become more comfortable with each other. In fact, I think he may know my body better than me now. Hopefully a few nights of good massaging with your significant other can spark a deeper connection between you two as well.
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