BEST FINGERING TECHNIQUES
Hey there, today is an appreciation post for the love of fingering.
If you are the fingerer, or the fingee, this post is important for you because we are going to dive into the best tips, hacks, and motions when it comes to pleasuring with your fingers.
As we may or may not know, the vulva is made up of many parts. Aside from the scientific labeling, we have the lips, the clit, and the g-spot, for basics. Each part of the vulva stimulates in different ways. The clitoris alone has 8,000 nerve endings, being more than a whole penis itself. With that, we have so many ways to get her going. The most popular ones seem to be these…
The, up & down, the side to side, and the circular motion.
Before we get deep into the motions, let’s address the basics…
CLEAN UP
As simple as this, if you wouldn’t put it in your mouth… don’t put it in your vagina. I hope we know this bit of information by now, but of course I can’t skip out on the most obvious yet important factors.
Stay clean, if you know you are getting down tonight, you should take the next step and give yourself a mini manicure, just a buff of the nails, clean underneath the nails, and make sure theres no sharp edges lingering that could cut the inside. That one may lead you to an automatic fail. Save yourself the L and do these simpe steps.
TARGET EACH SPOT AND WORK YOUR WAY UP
Think of isolations. Truth be told, it takes a vulva owner a weee bit more time to reach arousal than a penis owner. No shame! It’s just the way our genitals work.
Start off with the external parts of the vagina first. The lips and the clit.
PRO TIP: Grab some lube and apply a dime sized amount to your fingers before you start your play.
Start with slow, up and down or side to side movements, brushing and rubbing the vagina slowly. Pay attention to your tempo, and pressure as time goes on. You can boost up the amount of pressure you apply when you really start to get going.
Always warm up the vagina, and pay attention to everything in between also! Add stimulation to the nipples, neck, ears, collar bone.
Follow up with the circular motion onto the clit. This is the time you want you apply a little more pressure to the stimulation.
ADD IN A SECOND VIBE… OR TONGUE
This could be a vibrator into the g-spot or your fingers. Adding a second source of stimulation will enhance this experience by so much.
Licking and sucking on the clitoris is also BIG POINTS in my book. Yes the fingers do wonders, but nothing compares to a tongue down there, something that is softer than the rest of the feels we get…
Don’t be afraid to lick the clit instead of adding lube, this is another hot alternative when it comes to trying to get it wet down there. Your own spit could substitute as the lube if you feel you don’t need any for down there.
PAY ATTENTION TO THE G-SPOT
Rule of thumb, two inches in and upward motion. Also known as the, “come hither motion” This seems to always work on stimulating the g-spot inside. Use this information wisely, I am letting out all the secrets today. (WE LOVE THIS MOTION!)
If you are now entering the g-zone, don’t forget about the clit! It is a tuff time reaching orgasm with just g-spot stimulation. That’s why I suggest adding in a suction or finger vibe, or some oral at the same time.
This combination together, before sex? Immaculate. You will climb the ranks with this one. You WILL be their #1 call. If you’re dating? Well, then you definitely are cuffed by this point then.
FORE PLAY IS SO IMPORTANT
If you were to follow all these step by step rules, then the sex you are about to have is going to be INCREDIBLE. Vulva owners are multitalented and can orgasm a few times in one session, so use those tokens sparingly. Get that O before sex, and during sex, and then.. of course after too.
Fingering before sex is KEY to waking up the vulva and feeling the fullest stimulation. Not to mention, the vulva actually expands in size, or gets “swollen”, just as a penis gets hard. When you are penetrating a vagina that is fully aroused, you will start to feel the contractions as well, which is, I mean don’t you want to find out for yourself? Anyways… moral of my rant is to start with the fingers. Use the fingers, know HOW to use the fingers, and always… have a conversation with your partner first to get to know how they like to be touched. In most of my blogs I tend to tell you to have a conversation first. Have I steered you wrong yet though?
It’s always best to just slip in that conversation so that later on at night you are both on the same page. Better to be safe than sorry ;)
Now that we know the basics here, the next step is to try this out next time around when you’re in the act. Or, at least keep this blog in your back pocket for when you are thinking about how to pleasure your partner. That should be a thought in your head often, by the way!
Get to it, slowly and steady though, of course <3
