How To Date Yourself
GIRLSSS NIGHTTTTT
You ever thought about buying a mirror that shows every angle of your body? Probably not.
We tend to avoid or ignore our cute little insecurities… as one does!
I ask because I recently stepped in front of one. I saw my front, back, and every side angle I had. I took a long and hard stare… damn, thats me?
We tend to forget sometimes about how important it is to take care of yourselves and stay in every once in awhile.
May it be boring to endlessly scroll on Instagram, Tik Tok, Facebook, then back to Instagram, and so on and so forth. Of course, it gets old. What else is there to do?
Let’s do a quick activity here… Ask yourself these,
1.When was the last time I went on a solo date?
2.Have I ever taken a nude just for myself to look at?
3.Do I listen to my body when pleasure calls?
4.Do I compliment myself?
5.Am I willing to accomplish all 4?
Your answer may be no, I have never taken myself on a date. Or, you may say, I literally went on one last night.
No matter what your answers are, I’m here today to remind you that these acts of kindness can boost your mood by A LOT if you practice them daily.
SOLO DATES
Think coffee shops, parks, Italian restaurants, or a favorite bar in your hometown.
I dare you on your next off day to put a cute outfit on and take yourself on a date. Take a walk, drive, subway, bus to your cutie destination and treat yourself.
Take a cute selfie. Post it! Or not. Social media can be a bit taboo to subjects of doing anything by yourself. Most of the time we see stories of people out with their friends, never alone. This definitely takes a toll on the act of going on a date by yourself. “I don’t want people to know I’m alone!”
Voice of reason says ✨ who cares ✨
I think this could be super empowering. Allowing your soul to become one with yourself will ultimately up your game on relationships and self love.
TAKING A NOOD
Let’s get into it.
Set the scene, dim those lights, put that lingerie on, crack open the ring light, let’s get sexy.
The act of posing seductive in front of the mirror by yourself can honestly turn you on. Getting turned on by your own self is like reaching the heavens. We’ve done it, you don’t even need anyone else to tell you twice at this point.
Take a video. Dance, pose, prance around your room and screenshot the sexiest moves you made. Turn it black and white, send it to your lover, or put her in your folder of nudes and go back to her.
Revisiting old hot photos of yourself can also boost your confidence when you are feeling small. Think to yourself, she’s in there somewhere!
INCOMING CALL… PLEASURE
Ring….ring…ring….
Hey bestie I’m scared to tell you this but I am horny
ANSWER HER!
Another great ritual to add into your daily life is paying attention to when you want to pleasure yourself!
Some like to ignore these feelings and pretend they aren’t there. If you are alone and want to masturbate, go for it! You shouldn’t feel bad when it comes to this, these are regular hormones that get released to feel satisfaction and release. Did I mention orgasms help cure headaches?? Anyways…
LAST BUT NOT LEAST… TELL YOURSELF YOU ARE HOT
Or beautiful, gorgeous, or a queen, anything that you like to hear from others.
Start telling yourself that! Say you get dressed up, you damn well know you look fine. SAY IT IN THE MIRROR. Tell yourself, “I look fine!” Your brain will start to believe the words that are coming out of your mouth. If you continue to practice this every morning and night, your confidence will sky rocket over time. The pretty thing about this is that you will no longer seek compliments from others, instead you will enjoy receiving them a lot more, because you know deep down it is true.
Run along now queen, get to it and treat yourself.
No matter what form of self care you decide to go with, any care is enough to motivate yourself to become more and more in love with yourself.
I’ll leave you with this,. As RuPaul says…If you can’t love yourself how in the hell you gonna love somebody else? (For my RuPaul fans)
