A Beginner's Guide to Pegging
I remember the first time I attached a rainbow dildo onto a strap on at a sex shop, I felt invincible. For a moment, I got a glimpse of what walking around with a hard and powerful cock must feel like. I jokingly asked my friend to bend over, and although we giggled, there was something empowering about walking around with this synthetic cock. Perhaps my partners could smell the power, because not one of them has been into the idea of me pegging them yet. However, I have not given up the search for the perfect receiver to my rainbow strap on dildo!
What is pegging?
The term pegging was coined by Dan Savage to describe a scenario where a woman puts on a strap-on dildo and anally penetrates a man. Since its inception, the term has been expanded to be more inclusive and include any situation where a person anally penetrates another with a dildo.
What’s the point of pegging?!
Pegging can be a fun way to shift gender roles and allow a woman to experience what it’s like to FUCK her man! Due to the power switch inherent in heterosexual pegging, some men (including my current partner!) are uninterested in the act. I don’t know if it’s because they believe it will make them less masculine or on some level they believe that because the anus is involved pegging is somehow gay? Other men are really into the idea of a woman pegging them, as they like being able to give up the control that they have in other components of their lives. My belief is that everybody should experience being penetrated at one point in their life, as many men have no idea what it feels like to give up control and be vulnerable, the way it feels when someone is about to penetrate you.
Other than feeling like a badass bitch, perpetrating a partner can also feel physically great for the giver. The base of the dildo will often put pressure against the vulva leading to clitoral pleasure. A sensation which brings me back to my early days of dry humping, where I actually had my first orgasm!
Pegging can also feel FANTASTIC for the receiver! The prostate is a muscular gland located about two inches inside a male’s booty that produces the seminal fluid found in ejaculate. Every man who has spoken to me about having a prostate orgasm said it was the most intense orgasm of their life. There are also tons of nerve endings in the anal canal and anal entrance, so it can be a new and exciting way to receive pleasure.
How do you go about pegging?
Ok, now that you’re sold on the idea, how do you actually go about pegging?
First, make sure your partner consents! Pegging can only be fun if both parties are interested in exploring. This is the one situation where us women may have more physical power over a man, so it’s important that we don’t get too power hungry and make sure our partner is on the same page.
Second, what’s very important here is that you buy the right toys. It’s important that you purchase a good harness like this one, which will hold any dildo with a base and that you find the best pegging dildo. It is suggested that you start with a smaller dildo or a dildo set like this one so you can start small and work your way up. Silicone is a good material for anal toys as it resistant to bacteria and it’s more flexible.
Once you have selected your starter toy, you may want to put a condom on your toy. This will make cleaning it easier and less poopy. As well, if you are really getting into this pegging thing and want to use your toy on multiple partners, using condoms is the safer route.
Also, use ALL THE LUBE! When you don’t use enough lube during any form of anal sex you are likely to rip the skin and that hurts! Pain is not a great way to show your partner that this anal sex thing should be part of your sexual routine!
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When you enter your partner, start really slow and gently. Instead of starting with doggy style, which can be rather intense, I suggest entering them from behind in the big spoon position. This is also why you need to select the best pegging dildo, bigger isn’t always better, as the prostate is only two inches inside! You may need to use a pillow to get the entry position right. Angle wise, you want the dildo to be facing AWAY from your partner's spine, as this is the angle where you are more likely to hit the prostate and not hurt your partner.
When you are going into the place where poop comes out, some degree of fecal matter is to be expected. For the most part it isn’t a lot, but if you are scared of poop maybe this isn’t the type of sex for you. Also, never make a partner feel bad for having a bit of poop on the dildo, however it seems reasonable to put the person whose poop it is on clean up duty. Just make sure that they know not to put sex toys in the dishwasher like Abby did in that hilarious episode of in Broad City!
If you find the best pegging dildo, ensure to communicate with your partner and take it slow, pegging can be an amazing activity to add to your sexual repertoire!
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