I Took The BDSM Quiz and I Am A Switch
I always wonder, does the dom in the relationship ever get tired? Do they ever want to just lay like a plank of wood every once in awhile and let their partner take over? Or is it just a force of nature, no matter what… they always want to be in charge. I wonder this. I wonder because I get tired and want to be a plank of wood, but not all the time… so, I’m a switch.
Do you actually KNOW what you are considered?
Have you figured it out yet? I took a quiz the other day and my results came back 100% switch. Surprised? Not really. It makes sense! It’s something that I have picked up about myself.
TAKE THE ONLINE BDSM QUIZ HERE.
Compare results with your partner. Let’s say you have a high percentage result of being a brat, and your partner has a super low score. You have a low score of rope bunny, your partner has rope bunny as #2. It’s comparing and contrasting differences to meet somewhere in the middle.
The results you get will look like this, it is pretty accurate when you take the longer version quiz, rather than the shorter one that’s offered. Go for it!
After taking the quiz and learning some new and sexy things about one another, this could lead to possible experiments. One being the topic of this blog. How do I get my partner to switch roles with me?
Well, one of few ways.
One, BDSM QUIZ.
Which we talked about, sharing results and hoping the differences create new experiences together! This may open up your partners eyes and realize hey, maybe what they are into is something I can see myself into too. The only way of finding out is doing it, right? ;)
Two, ROLE PLAY AND POWER PLAY TALK.
Power play. This is something that takes hold in relationships, leaving it up to the partners to figure out what their role are between one another. I challenge you this. Take it upon yourself to walk into the bedroom one night, and everything you would normally do… go opposite. Completely dominate, or become submissive. *Of course with consent, before going into action ask them, “is this okay?” , “Are you enjoying this?” or, “Can I continue?” just to keep up with yours and their emotions. Remember, if they aren’t into it, maybe this just isn’t the right ball park to be in.
Once we cross this bridge, dig in. Say you want to take charge for once, you are always the sub.
Lean in with little steps, maybe go down on them first. Initiate the sex. Make an entrance, wear a sexy costume that has been lodged up in your closet. Bring out the handcuffs, take the leash out, or maybe you want to ease in with a sensual massage, the possibilities are endless, this is what makes it fun. The end goal always is to pleasure all partners in the act, and once you get in the groove and start to lean into it and actually like it, well… you’re golden baby.
Three, CONSIDER OR RECONSIDER.
If you are someone reading this saying, I would rather not let my partner take control of me. Consider this, if this is something you truly may not give up. AKA your power, then maybe reconsider. It is super important in relationships to meet in the middle with just about anything. However in the bedroom it is different. Some partners split up because they have different sexual needs, that is perfectly fine. Sex believe it or not does play a big role when it comes to intimacy with your partner. Throughout all my relationships I always needed balance. (Hence why they are now ex’s.)
Back to the drawing map here, if you still have never tried something, and you simply won’t, so be it! If you try it, and don’t like it, you cannot say you didn’t try. For that, I’m sure you trying it meant even more to your partner.
Have a conversation. The vulnerable states that comes with this are tricky! Even intimidating. Have you ever asked a man to peg them? Most say no. You get my point. It is not always an easy persuasion! Experience comes with time. Time comes with warming up, you may not get the success you were looking for the first night. You may not get it the next week. Remember to ease into it. I am a firm believer however of talking beforehand and create boundaries, a safe word, and overall set some do’s and dont’s. If you need a boost, check out my last blog I linked! If you do truly love your partner you will allow them to warm up and think about the experience that you are putting out on the table.
Four, BUILD YOUR OWN FANTASY.
Build the fantasy together. I could sit here and tell you x y AND z, but I want you to finish the story. You take it from here, I think I have said enough ;) I wish you luck! Oh, and this… do what you will with this information <3
